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February 12 2017
As I mentioned before, I love the 1950s. It was a simpler time, when men and women not only knew their roles, but embraced them. It wasn’t perfect, but there was a sense of purpose for husbands and wives. Purpose is something we lack in these modern times.
Oxford Dictionary defines purpose as: “The reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists.” God created you with a purpose. From the moment you were formed, He had a plan for you and for your life.
As a wife, God’s plan for you is really something special. He has blessed you with a husband, a partner, a provider, and a protector. Your husband will embrace his roles more readily if you are living yours. What are your roles in marriage? Let’s start by seeing what God has to say.
Let’s start with a wife’s role of submission. Husbands are meant to lead their families, and especially their wives. For your husband to successfully lead, you must be willing to follow. A person who has no followers is leading no one.
Ephesians 5:22-25 (KJV) says, “22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing (author emphasis). 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;”
I like to point out those two little words in the passage above: every thing. This is so important to understand. You might also say “all things”. Most of us would expect our churches to be ‘subject unto Christ’, as indicated above, and would question if there were ideals or teachings which went against Biblical teachings. The implication here is the same for wives. If we pick and choose the areas in which we are subject to our husbands, they can’t lead us in a Godly way. They won’t know if we are truly respecting their authority in the home.
How can we get to a place that we are truly submitting to our husbands? Is it a final destination, or an ongoing journey? Maybe a little bit of both.
This brings us to the wife’s role of helper. Genesis 2:18 tells us, “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” That’s you! A help meet: a companion and helper. One who is right by your husband’s side, encouraging him and following him. It is God’s will that you would give your husband the support of which he deserves. Just be careful that you aren’t confusing your personal definition of “deserving” with the God-ordained one your husband has been granted. Wives can sometimes use mistakes or misjudgments made by their husbands as justification to not follow them, or to be obedient to them. When this happens, the husband questions his own place in the home, and in the relationship.
A wife is also to love her husband. Titus 2:4 tells wives to “love their husbands”. Perhaps your wedding vows used the traditional phrase “to love, honor, and obey”. Even if they didn’t, the Bible commands us to love our husbands. The word love has so many meanings, we should be careful not to diminish our capacity to express it properly when it comes to our husbands. Let’s look at a few examples:
While the first two are perfectly fine, (and yummy!), the last example gives us love in a different sense. It’s a love which isn’t based on the conditions of something, but an all-encompassing love with no bounds. Do you love your husband with this kind of love? Is it an all-encompassing, all-accepting kind of love?
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